In our society it is believed that medical intervention is needed for a
baby to be born. That woman must be monitored and given drugs to
speed things up or slow things down. There is a general mistrust
of birth and of the woman doing it. I believe the exact opposite, I
am a birthing advocate, I believe in birth and I believe it is a natural
process and I believe every woman is built to do it. Not only do I feel
this way, but its my job to feel this way. In fact, for years I have been
saying this sentence in my prenatal classes:
"you instinctively knew how to make this baby and you will instinctively
know how to birth this baby!"
Ha! how silly was I? can you just imagine my surprise when my
"instincts" to make a baby failed me? Can you imagine what this
could do to the belief in your body and how it can give birth? I mean,
If I can not trust my body to make a baby, can I trust my body to
Over the last few years as a doula I have heard many "rhymes"
spouted off by OB's to let woman know they "needed" medical
intervention for their birth. "40 at 40" is one that comes to mind,
meaning if a woman is 40 when she she is pregnant, she will be
induced at 40 weeks. There is no medical indication of this, but it is
a cute rhyme. I mean, what if mom and baby are healthy at 40 weeks?
should age really matter?
The latest rhyme I heard was just yesterday "Intervention going in,
intervention going out!". I nearly crawled out of my skin, I have been
repeating those words in my head for the last 24 hours. Is that what
we as IF woman are to listen to? How could we possibly go into a
birth with that repeating in our minds?
So, even though my body has let me down, do I believe this rhyme?
absolutely not! how would it even be possible to study this as a
medical fact when 90% of woman are using intervention to deliver
their babies, IF or not! It's just a rhyme, a cute rhyme, but JUST
Yes, its hard to trust our bodies when they let us down, but eventually
we need to trust again. Even after losses and interventions and IUI's
and IVF ext...... Eventually our body DOES take over, it accepts
the pregnancy and begins to grow fingers and toes and eyes and
ears. Can you believe it? your body does all this work, instinctively!
It is possible for a woman who has gone through assisted reproduction
to have the birth that they hope for (whatever that may be), I know
this because I have seen it with my own eyes. I have seen these little
miracle babies enter the world in a calm gentle manner and I have
seen trust begin to rebuild in a woman's body and heart. For those
of you reading this blog right now who are pregnant and hoping
for the birth of their dreams, it is possible! It's more then possible
you can do it!
Thats it, I'll get down off my soap box now!!