Sunday, May 30, 2010

The Game Plan

In the last 7 days I have attended 3 births, these births were meant to 
span months of May and June, but the babes had their own plans and 
all came at once. These were the last few births I had before I take a 
summer break, thats right, I'm OFF call for the next 2 months, I no 
longer have to be a slave to my ring tone!!!!! I'm going to miss the little 
babies being born this summer, but with my laparoscopy scheduled for 
"sometime in june or july" I didn't want to run the risk of not being 
there for my clients. 

Now that I have had some time to reflect on the births (and some 
time to sleep) I can begin to put into words what I have learned. 
Each birth I attend is vastly different from the last, and each come
with some kind of lesson both for me and the birthing mother. I 
don't wish to dive too far into their birth stories, but I will say the
ultimate theme of the week was TRUST. 

As each woman came to and passed their due dates they really 
needed to dig deep and TRUST in their bodies and natures plan. 
There is a tremendous amount of pressure to induce once a 
woman passes 40 weeks and it take a LOT of trust in oneself
to let the baby decide when they are ready to join our world.

As each day passed they needed to work harder to hold on 
to their beliefs that they are strong healthy woman, and that
one day their baby will arrive. Now, one week after the babies
decided to come, I have to ask myself If I have had this kind
of trust in myself over the last two years. Do I believe I am a 
strong healthy woman and that one day my baby will be here? 
not really, not at all. 

I have allowed the medical system to tell me that I don't know
my body, that my baby will not come, and that medical assistance
is needed. Are they right? perhaps, and for many of us, medical 
assistance IS needed, but have I tried enough on my own first? 
I don't think so. I don't think I ever really believed that I could 
do this on my own.

So I have decided to do what I have suggested to my clients 
over the last few years. I am going to do EVERYTHING I can to 
have this baby on my own, before turning to the medical doctors. 
I am going to TRUST in myself and in my decisions, this way if I 
do need medical assistance I will truly know that it was a 
necessary step for us to take, not one that I took out of fear or 
lack of trust in myself. is our NEW plan:

1. My darling hubby as agreed to do 3 month of acupuncture to help
with his little swimmers!!! (trust me, this did not come without a price, 
for every hour he spends doing my "crazy hippy" treatments, he gets
a day to himself, no chores, no visits.....nothing, just a day on his own)

2. I will have my laparoscopy, of course I know this is medical intervention, 
but at this time I truly believe it is a necessary step. 

3. After my surgery, and hubby's acupuncture, we will be playing with 
a full deck, ideally. I will go back on the chinese herbs/acupuncture that 
produced such wonderful CM that I was sure that even ONE stray sperm 
with the resemblance of a drill would be sucked into my egg to
produce a wee little one. 

4. Continue to try on our own for 6 months, continuing with the 
acupuncture, yoga, chiro ext. 

5. mmmmmmmm, not so sure what to do if this does not work. 

So that's it, our new plan, one based on trust in our own research, in our 
own gut feelings and our own decisions.  I am happy with it and really 
feel that if we need to move on to ART after this, I can look back and say 
that we have tried everything. 


  1. SO SO glad that you have a plan (and a great plan at that). Hopefully hubby will learn to like acupuncture once he has tried it?

  2. Hey,
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    God Bless,

  3. I like the new plan. Way to Take Charge!

  4. Sounds like a great plan (as I told you yesterday)!!!! I've been thinking about re-visiting acupuncture since my naturopath does it and I trust her more than the guy I used to go to (and she's down the street from my house!).

    Thanks again for organizing yesterday! I'm so proud of my painting and I felt so rejuvenated when I got home!

  5. Hey! great to hear you and your hubby have found a "plan" that works for you both and makes you comfortable ..which is the most important!
    Acupuncture is also in my line of vision as well! I've heard many great things about it! Good luck on your laparoscopy surgery and enjoy your 2 months off for rest and relaxation!

  6. I love the plan! We kind of have the same outlook - do as much as we can on our own so that we never wonder what if. If I had never quit my job or tried acupuncture or diet changes, and we went to treatments or adoption, I would always have felt like we rushed into something. My hubby is the big push for us to try everything ourselves first - but I wish he would go to acupuncture too! His SA's were good, but still...can't hurt, right?
    Anyway, I wish you the best of luck with your new plan, the surgery, and everything!

  7. I just read through your blog. We are also dealing with poor SA results, worse than your hubby's I think. Not through with testing with me but I suspect maybe some endo due to painful periods. So needless to say much of what you have written rings true for me. Good luck and let us know if acupuncture helps the SC!!!!

  8. I'm glad you have a plan.
    It's tough--I work in medicine (western medicine) and so I obviously had a decent amount of trust/belief in it--but the more I work in it and the farther I got into medical IF treatment the less I trusted it. Funny how it worked that way. Of course, since it was never successful for us that obviously colored my opinion just a bit :)
    Wishing you only the best of luck!

  9. So excited for your lap! I'm busting to know what's going on in your pelvis! ;)

  10. I think this is a wonderful plan. And that's hysterical about the deal you had to make with the hubby - an hour for a day. Hey, whatever works!!! Enjoy this summer off - you definitely deserve it!!!

  11. Just thought I'd comment and say what a GREAT plan you have. You and hubby are so good at making insightful, educated decisions!

    I just stumbled upon your blog a few days ago and had to read from the beginning. I too work among the baby bumps and totally get where you are coming from. Thanks for writing!