Christmas vacation (she LOVES Christmas)!! She wanted to know when I would
be flying back home and how many days I will have off of work. I let her know
that this year we may not be able to go home for Christmas for "financial" reasons.
She kept pushing at this, saying there should be no reason we can't get home
we both work and have no children. (I hate that statement coming form ANYONE,
to hear it from my mom was very stingy. "JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE DON'T
HAVE CHILDREN DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE FULL OF DISPOSABLE
Anyway, I ended up spilling the beans by saying, "look mom, we may not be able
to come home because we may have to pay for IVF to have a baby. To show you
how well this news went over, here is a list of comments heard over the next few
minutes of this conversation:
- Why do you have to do that, there is nothing wrong with you!
- Well who's fault is it?
- Why don't you adopt from Africa
- Maybe it's not meant to be
- There is no way this is your fault
- There is no way this it both your fault, it has to be just one of you
Needless to say I was quite upset by this conversation, but after talking to a friend/
cousin in law of mine, she reminded me how shocking my news may have been.
Perhaps my Mom may have needed a little more time to digest it the fact that there
is something "wrong" with her daughter and that she may not have the abundance of grandchildren around the Christmas tree that she may have hoped for.
So, here is my question to you. When/How did you tell your parents? How did
they react? Was it the reaction you expected, or were you upset by the lack of
support? Surprised by the amount of support? Did this change over time?
Look forward to hearing from you!!!