SPERMOGRAMME

It's been a very interesting few days!! Saturday Night was my hubby's

b-day party, Sunday was Valentines Day, Monday was Family Day and

Today was Semen Analysis Day!!

So how did I celebrate these days? Well, Saturday Night we had some 

friends over to eat KFC and drink wine. Doesn't sound special I know, 

but to a guy who has given up nearly everything to increase his sperm 

counts, it was a big birthday treat!! We also played board games and 

watched the olympics, so overall it was a great night. 

For Valentines day we did nothing but sit and play video games, well, 

he played the games I read more business books (I'm slightly obsessed). 

We also went to his parents house for dinner where after hearing the 

news of our IF his grandmother blessed his swimmers! I wish I had 

video taped that for your viewing but hopefully you can use your 

imagination. 

On "Family Day" I thought I would spend the day at an IVF rally. 

It was sad enough to be at an IVF rally on a holiday designed to give

you more time with your family, but to do it by yourself was even 

worse. My DH did not want to go, for fear of being seen on Television, 

which is understandable. It was actually a great rally, A few woman 

went up and told their stories then a doctor went on to explain why 

IVF should be government funded here in Ontario (like it is in the 

provinces east AND west of us). It was very touching and informative, 

I'm glad I went and I am really hoping funding for 3 rounds of IVF 

will be added to the Ontario budget in March.

For Semen Analysis day we did just that, DH "collected" his sample

while I waited in the car and we zipped up to the R.E. office. Today 

for the first time I noticed the CUP that holds the precious swimmers

says SPERMOGRAMME, haha, I would have loved for DH to show up 

at the office and say "SPERMOGRAMME FOR DR.K" tehe. 

Anyhow, this is when things went terribly wrong! DH asked 

the receptionist when he would get the results, to which she replied

"well now that you have done the sample and your wife has done the

laparoscopy we will set up your next meeting to talk IVF"

DH: "But my wife has not had the surgery, she refused it"

And thats when &#%$ hit the fan, he had to call me up from 

my car to explain to her what I had done. I let her know that until 

they are able to properly explain to me the benefits and risks of the 

surgery I will not be doing it. She then preceded to SCOLD me about

my stupid decision and let me know it would be MONTHS before

I could get another appointment with the surgeon. I said that was 

fine, because I DON'T WANT THE SURGERY!!

Up until now NO ONE has told me anything about the surgery, they 

just EXPECT me to do it. I would like a little more information, I mean, 

the only reason I know that endo grows back around 6 months after 

surgery is because I researched it. It doesn't make sense for me to have 

surgery NOW if we do not have the money for IVF right now (or even

 know if thats the right route for us). 

From my understanding, if I was to have the surgery now, I would have

to have it again by the time we were ready for IVF. I really think he 

was trying to get me to "BLINDLY" have the surgery and then say 

"well you need to do IVF within the next 6 months or your chances

go down...bla bla bla"

I don't know, maybe I'm being too "suspicious", maybe I should just

listen to the R.E. after all he is the expert, but I would just like to 

have SOME information before making decisions. Maybe some kind

of timeline? anything to make me feel like I even MATTER in this

process. 

Ok, I seem to have written too much, but if any of you out there have

some advice for me, I would LOVE to hear it!!