tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post8007443329975967399..comments2023-06-20T05:07:05.428-07:00Comments on learning to swim in a sea of baby bumps: SPERMOGRAMMEtishihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05652109105463448687noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-54242751034528277152010-02-17T21:02:43.300-08:002010-02-17T21:02:43.300-08:00Expecting them to explain the risks and benefits o...Expecting them to explain the risks and benefits of the surgery is NOT too much to ask. In my opinion, it is the bare minimum of what they should offer you! Your reasons for not wanting the surgery sound reasonable and well thought out. I'm totally behind you!Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08482387222906180900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-60818246294968312022010-02-16T18:28:42.817-08:002010-02-16T18:28:42.817-08:00I went through similar experience when we went to ...I went through similar experience when we went to a conventional fertility clinic, although it wasn't surgery that was being pushed, it was IVF ASAP. <br /><br />I definitely think that you should go to the Marguerite Bourgeoys Family Centre. They can help you more holistically and they will have your overall fertility health in mind. I don't know if I will ever conceive, but I know that my body will be healthy for the rest of my life. AND they will not push IVF on you, ever!JellyBellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12446863670679588932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-85627935778388802842010-02-16T18:02:15.661-08:002010-02-16T18:02:15.661-08:00I agree with the other ladies, I think you need t...I agree with the other ladies, I think you need to maybe seek a second opinion. I also had a difficult run in with a obs/gyno referred to me by my RE back in September. He basically said to me that i had a large fibroid and i had only 2 options to operate or do nothing. He didn't care that i still wanted to have kids etc. My DH asked him some questions and he already opened the door and indicated that it was time for us to leave. So, I seeked another obs/gyno for a second opinon. long story short my stupid RE did not readily help me get the referral to see this other ob/gyno and i had to deal with his ignorant stupid secretary..which by the way i had to yell at her as she kept persisting that i already have an ob/gyno with them why do i need to be referred to see another one..well i told her this is my body and will she be responsible if anything happens to me... so on the same day i got my referral to the new ob/gyno..met with him back in nov 2009, he is absolutely an angel! he is also taking care of my IUI treatments..which by the way initially he mentioned that i do IVF but with further testing etc he said lets do IUI as it is less invasive and less expensive. My new ob/gyno also said with my fibroid the best thing to do is quickly help me get pregnant (fingers crossed) and than take it out when i deliver my baby. He said it is better than cutting into the uterus now and making it harder later to do any of the iui or ivf. He dosen't agree with the others doctors out there who likes to just operate on you right away.<br /><br />Basically, i think with that kind of crappy treatment you and your hubby got you need to seek other ivf clincs/ another RE what ever it takes to find the best suitable doctor who can at least show some EMPATHY! good luck..oh btw i hate surgery but i didn't find myself crazy when i decided to seek a better doctor who thought like me. Take care!<br />and great that his greatmother bless your DH's swimmers! Best of luck with everything!butterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15173270739643272127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-8658886132465186042010-02-16T17:21:14.191-08:002010-02-16T17:21:14.191-08:00Can his grandma come and bless my DH's swimmer...Can his grandma come and bless my DH's swimmers!?! That is too funny! <br /><br />I can't believe they are trying to pressure you into having the surgery. it is your body! Oh some Dr's. Well hopefully IVF will be covered soon and you can more in the right direction.One Who Understandshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16910813050360555172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-59432487117836963282010-02-16T16:19:02.994-08:002010-02-16T16:19:02.994-08:00Yikes! That kind of pressure would raise some red...Yikes! That kind of pressure would raise some red flags for me. I don't blame you a bit for wanting a lot more information before proceeding. I'm concerned that they are pressuring you like this. It's almost seems like they have a checklist of things they do for each IF patient and surgery is on the list. You've already got a diagnosis of MFI, so I don't get why your doctor would be pushing you to have surgery.<br /><br />I have endo and didn't have surgery to remove it (except an endometrioma that was "suspicious" for cancer). My symptoms have increased, but I'm not going to consider surgery until we are done with treatments entirely. I'm very weary of having my remaining ovary damaged by surgery. My own RE recommends against having a lap unless it is used for symptom control. And yes, it does grow back, because the process causing the endo in the first place isn't fixed. And it doesn't take long to come back. To me it seems like it could be an endless cycle.<br /><br />You do matter in this process! Your RE may be an expert, but we have to be our own advocates for what is best for us. If you don't feel 100% comfortable, then I think you shouldn't do it.<br /><br />Good luck with your DH's sample. Maybe all those vitamins/beerless nights will do the trick. Take care.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11568731053148296398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-37079829515302223762010-02-16T16:09:32.147-08:002010-02-16T16:09:32.147-08:00I love the image of your husband's grandmother...I love the image of your husband's grandmother blessing his swimmers.<br /><br />That's much better than the Nurse Ratched vision I'm having of the receptionist. Did you ever get an answer on when you should get the results from the SA? Those results should have nothing to do with your going ahead with surgery or not. (insert eye roll at pseudo-bureaucratic crap)Mrs. Higrenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05716402229360715867noreply@blogger.com