tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post298568149261755535..comments2023-06-20T05:07:05.428-07:00Comments on learning to swim in a sea of baby bumps: Something is Just Not Righttishihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05652109105463448687noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-52072623763791538122010-04-20T09:54:52.524-07:002010-04-20T09:54:52.524-07:00I think sometimes we just have to sit in the crap....I think sometimes we just have to sit in the crap. I know it stinks and it doesn't feel good, but sitting in it, is what gets us to our happier times. I think the trick is to not wallow in it too long, otherwise it can turn into depression and might be harder to come out of.<br /><br />I am really sorry your feeling this way - I wish it was a part of the process we could skip. I had to get myself involved in things I had control over to refocus my energy, otherwise I would have gone batty. <br /><br />I know that this is just temporary when it happens, so I allow myself to feel it and I think you should too. But make a deadline, a start time for a new project or something, set a new goal and see where it goes from there. Shifting our focus is helpful. And for me, sometimes Faith is a double edged sword because it gets me through the hard times but it also gets tested time and time again and I wonder what good it has done me. but that's normal I suppose. Whatever normal is. LOL<br /><br />xoxoxoxoxoxKimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16022175407912153277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-27326586975722214912010-04-20T06:44:15.905-07:002010-04-20T06:44:15.905-07:00I agree with JellyBelly, some project or hobby to ...I agree with JellyBelly, some project or hobby to re-focus your attention too always help. I too once upon a time in my life many years ago had a major depression and came out of that alive. It is very easy to slip into a mode that makes you feel like everything in your life is uncontrollable. but, look at the things in your life you can control for ie...you career by far, you can plan for a trip or a mini getaway so once you are healed from the surgery there is something positive to look forward too. It is normal that you are right now feeling out of sorts..hang in there don't let infertility give you a horrible thing like depression cause that is even worse..trust me i've been through it. You have to say to yourself i need to take control of my life no matter what..make a list of all of your accomplishments and post it on your fridge or somewhere you can see it first thing in the morning. take good care of yourself.butterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15173270739643272127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-39879089058888655792010-04-20T05:07:26.485-07:002010-04-20T05:07:26.485-07:00this is just how i have felt going through inferti...this is just how i have felt going through infertility. i think it's a combination of all the things you mentioned.Lenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11500802150581777041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-27651734691270763512010-04-20T04:12:40.550-07:002010-04-20T04:12:40.550-07:00You know sweetie, at times this is just the way it...You know sweetie, at times this is just the way it is. I understand your need of moving forward, ad shaking off this need of planning constantly and doing things, but perhaps you have to go through this difficult moments to be able to feel better afterwards. Looking forward to your next update, and I know you will feel balanced soon. Love, FranFranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05717020378275616297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-17083739764831595542010-04-19T18:36:07.844-07:002010-04-19T18:36:07.844-07:00Please know that I am listening (((hugs)))
You ar...Please know that I am listening (((hugs)))<br /><br />You are not alone in this craxy roller coaster mess of IF.My Vegashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232402432779260397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-1829990088737995762010-04-19T18:35:08.844-07:002010-04-19T18:35:08.844-07:00I have been where you are so many times in our jou...I have been where you are so many times in our journey! Unfortunately I've had issues with clinical depression in my past so I have to be very careful not to sink too deeply. <br /><br />I definitely think that going to see the energy healer will help. I know that when I see my Reiki practitioner I feel awesome afterwards. I know that it's the treatment, but it's also being able to talk freely with someone that has my best interest at heart (saying that, I'm thinking that I need to see her ASAP!!).<br /><br />Aside from seeing someone like a fertility psychologist (something that I haven't felt ready to do) I know that having a project to work on always helps as a distraction. I know that it isn't ideal, but I find that accomplishing something (like the clean-out of my basement, pre-reno) makes me feel like I have a semblance of control. Even if it's reorganizing the junk drawer, I feel better!JellyBellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12446863670679588932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-15257034453961505772010-04-19T17:25:56.098-07:002010-04-19T17:25:56.098-07:00I'm not sure where you lie on this spectrum, ...I'm not sure where you lie on this spectrum, but for me it's all about my faith. The only comfort and confidence I've found in WHATEVER the future holds is in my relationship with God. It's hard, still. Somedays I cry and bemoan the situation, but reminding myself of all the times I tried to control my life and it turned out badly makes me way more ready to let God handle the whole fertility thing (and to guide our steps in terms of timing on medical intervention).KShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06432610911815441533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-65547067079985037352010-04-19T12:25:11.735-07:002010-04-19T12:25:11.735-07:00This is so hard - that feeling you describe. For ...This is so hard - that feeling you describe. For me, when I get tired, when I don't take care of myself, and I get depressed, I feel the way you describe. I have had problems with depression, and sometimes it has gotten really bad. But how you talk about how you are not happy, and you miss being who you used to be, is exactly how I describe the early stages of depression for me. Now I am able to recognize it, and try to talk it out with my therapist, or something. Medication hasn't worked very well for me, although it works for others. I hope you find some answers with your energy healer. The biggest thing for me when I was going through it is knowing that it will pass, and to allow myself to feel the way I'm feeling, without trying to fake it too much, or too often. <br /><br />I'm sorry you're feeling this way - I really hope you can feel better soon, as this is so tough right now, I know.Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07524692943966582775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-69647956277464872102010-04-19T12:10:27.212-07:002010-04-19T12:10:27.212-07:00It's so hard to just (in the immortal words of...It's so hard to just (in the immortal words of the Beatles) 'let it be' when you are feeling buffeted on all sides. I hope the energy healer can help you find your inner peace once again.<br /><br />((hugs))Mrs. Higrenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05716402229360715867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352632822311220554.post-22104346652105458212010-04-19T11:28:08.289-07:002010-04-19T11:28:08.289-07:00I wish I had the answer to this, as I feel exactly...I wish I had the answer to this, as I feel exactly the same way. Thanks for the eloquent description I've been looking for. <br /><br />For me, I envy the sense of possibility I used to have, the idea that the future had lots of positive things in store for me. With IF I've realized that all options are not on the table, even if I really really want it and I work really really hard. There is a sense of injustice to it that is so freaking hard to shake.inBetweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17212548401525577878noreply@blogger.com